One of the biggest choices couples have to make for their wedding day is whether or not to see each other before the ceremony. And the debate can get heated!!! It's tradition not to see each other before you walk down the aisle, but do you actually know WHY that is?? I'll just share this explanation from Bridal Guide:
"During the time when arranged marriages were custom, the betrothed couple wasn’t allowed to see each other before the wedding at all. The wedding symbolized a business deal between two families (romantic, huh?), and a father would have been pleased for his daughter to marry a man from a rich, land-owning family. But he also feared that if the groom met the bride before the wedding and thought she wasn’t attractive, he’d call off the wedding, casting shame onto the bride and her family. Therefore, it became tradition that the bride and groom were only allowed to meet at the wedding ceremony so that the groom did not have the opportunity to change his mind. And that veil the bride wears? Its original purpose was also to keep the groom from finding out what the bride looked like until the last possible minute, when it was too late to back out of the transaction."
Well... there isn't anything pretty or romantic about that tradition (or should we say transaction)!!! But for a lot of people, tradition is just something you have to do, and we get it. But we want to make sure that if you're a die-hard believer in a tradition, you at least understand where it's coming from.
So now that you know the ugly background of this tradition, we wanted to share some of our top reasons for bucking the tradition in this case and seeing each other before the ceremony!
Pros of a First Look:
- The first time you see each other is private and shared just between you two (and us with our quiet, ninja-like cameras).
- You both will look your freshest!
- The nerves of seeing each other for the first time will be gone and then you can simply look forward to and enjoy your ceremony
- Helps to ensure that there is enough time for the most important photos (the ones of you two!) - if you skip the first look and the ceremony begins late, or family photos run longer than expected, then it's the bride and groom photos that get cut short.
- You can schedule all wedding party photos before the ceremony, so afterward you’ll be able to head to your reception quickly instead of having your guests wait for a longer period of time while you take all your photos
- This is a great trial run of walking around and moving in your dress before you have to do it in front of everyone at your ceremony!
- You get extra time to spend together on your wedding day! It goes so fast, so maximizing the time you actually get to spend together enjoying your big day is a huge bonus!!
These are just a few of the many reasons why we encourage everyone to do a First Look on their wedding day! If you want to maximize the time you spend with your soon-to-be spouse on your wedding day and ensure you have plenty of time to get all the portraits you want, then a First Look is a must for you!!! We promise that the emotion you'll feel during a First Look will be just as powerful as what you'd feel seeing each other at the ceremony, if not stronger! You get to embrace the moment fully, and your groom can feel free to cry and let out all his emotions without a room full of people staring at him. And then during the ceremony, you can let go of all the nerves and simply focus on the happiness and joy of the moment!
Choosing to do a First Look on our own wedding day was one of the best choices we made!! Here's a peek at our very own First Look!